I saw the movie Heaven is for Real last weekend. If you haven’t seen it, it’s a very sweet story about a Pastor’s four year old son who has a near-death experience during surgery. After the surgery he starts telling his father about heaven. He shares about people he saw and things he knows that he couldn’t possibly know.
Some of you know I lost my little dog Mia last fall (see Puppy Love: Mia and Me). I know it seems silly — she was just a dog after all. But it was so unexpected and our bond was so deep that it hit me extremely hard.
And I’ve found it comforting to think about things that used to make me uncomfortable, like life after death.
As a therapist, I know it’s really common for people to have an experience of their loved one after they go — to hear their voice or feel their presence.
A few years ago I had a “dream” about my grandmother right after she died. In my dream I asked her, “What do you do over there all day, Grandma?” And she said, “The same things I used to do.” I pictured her working in the garden or cooking. It was really comforting. I felt like she was letting me know she was okay.
I’ve also had several “experiences” of Mia. They were most often and most comforting right after we lost her.
Things that used to make me uncomfortable are now quite comforting.
So, I was wondering…
If you’ve seen the movie, what are your thoughts?
Do you believe in heaven or an afterlife?
How has this comforted you in times of loss?
Dr. Vonda ("Vondie") Lozano is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Hypnotherapist and former Psychology Professor. She offers counseling, hypnosis and free workshops to help you have the life and love you really want. Vondie is the author of finding Mr. Right. She's been featured in Cosmopolitan, the Wall Street Journal and on KABC Talk Radio.
Vondie's been in L.A. for 20 years and now she's in Ventura. Nearby cities include Camarillo, Ojai and Oxnard. Ventura is also accessible from Santa Barbara, Moorpark, Simi Valley, Thousand Oaks, Agoura Hills and Westlake Village.