You’re out and about more. You’re seeing people you haven’t seen in a while… So, how do you maximize those holiday opportunities?
Just Say “YES!”
Whether it’s a work party, a family party, a friend’s party… when those holiday invites start rolling in, just say “yes! “You never knew where you might meet someone really interesting. And when it’s time for the party, get yourself up and out the door!
Host Your Own Holiday Get-Together
Have your own party and invite your single friends. Tell each of them to bring their single friends. This is a great way to meet quality singles, because you and your friends have already pre-screened everyone!
Remember to smile and make eye-contact even if it’s just for a second. That’s how you let a good guy know you’re open to being approached. And men, remember to give her a second to figure out that you’re smiling at her. But, when she does smile back, that’s when it’s time to make your move (Whaling, 2001).
Run Away from Your “Type”
If a relationship with your type hasn’t worked in the past, there’s a good chance it won’t work in the future. Because that kind of initial chemistry just means they’re a perfect fit for all that hard-wiring in your brain from your family-of-origin (Lewis, Amini, & Lannon). So if you don’t want a repeat of your past relationships. Or you don’t want the kind of relationships you saw growing up, initial chemistry may not be your friend. (You can still have chemistry, it just may take a few dates to kick in.)
Turn the Tables
It’s inevitable. There are some people that you only see during the holidays. And somehow they can never resist asking, “So are you seeing anyone?” But, this is your opportunity to put them to work. Let them know that you’re not currently with anyone. But, if they know of someone good, you’d be open to being set-up. (This works great, as long as your potential “matchmaker” has a good relationship of their own. Otherwise, you don’t want someone who is a bad picker picking someone for you!)
If you’re in the L.A. area, join us this Saturday, December 8, 2012 for How to Meet Someone this Holiday Season,
Lewis, T., Amini, F., & Lannon, R. (2006). A General Theory of Love. New York: Random.
Whaling, A. (2000-2002). Sunday Night Singles. Pasadena, CA.Dr. Vonda ("Vondie") Lozano is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, former Psychology Professor, and Author. She lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and she is working on her first book for singles. Get Dr. Vondie's *Free* Ebook, Date, Don't Mate!